The No Contact Rule, done right.
What it is, how long it takes, what each day feels like, and exactly what to do in the moment you want to reach out. Honest guides, no fluff, and a free private app for the hard nights.
- 37 in-depth guides
- Day-by-day map to day 90
- Free companion app
Start with the fundamentals
How to Start No Contact: A Simple Checklist
A practical step-by-step guide to starting the no contact rule: pick your why, cut the channels, set a timeline, plan for urges, and actually stick to it.
Read guideTimelineHow Long Should No Contact Last? The Honest Answer
How long should no contact last? A real look at the 30, 60, and 90-day frameworks, how relationship length changes the timeline, and how to know when you're truly done.
Read guideDoes It WorkDoes the No Contact Rule Work? An Honest Answer
Does the no contact rule work? Here is the honest truth about what no contact really does, why it heals you, the get-them-back paradox, and what changes the outcome.
Read guideTimelineThe Stages of No Contact: What to Expect Week by Week
The emotional stages of no contact, from shock and peak urges to the one-month shift, grief, and a new normal. Know what each phase feels like and why it passes.
Read guideBasicsWhat Is the No Contact Rule? A Clear Guide
The no contact rule explained simply: what it is, what counts as contact, what it is not, and why cutting off an ex actually helps you heal.
Read guideYou don't need more willpower. You need somewhere else to go.
The urge to text them lasts about twenty minutes. The No Contact app is built for exactly those twenty minutes. Four tools, one tap away.
Wait 20 minutes
Urges crest and pass. The timer keeps running even if you close the app.
Into the Void
Write the text in full, then watch it dissolve. Never sent.
Breathe
Box, 4·7·8, or one long sigh. The circle leads, you follow.
Ground yourself
5·4·3·2·1. Back to the room you're in, not the chat you're not in.
What to expect on every day of no contact
From the brutal first 72 hours to the steady ground around day 90, a realistic map of the feelings and the focus for each stretch.
For the hard days in the middle
I Broke No Contact, What Now? A Compassionate Guide
I broke no contact, what now? A compassionate guide for after a slip: why it is not the end, how to stop the shame from taking over, what to do in the next hour, and whether to reset the clock.
Read guideHealingNo Contact and Anxiety: Surviving the Spike
No contact rule anxiety guide for anxiously attached people: why no contact spikes anxiety at first, protest behavior, and grounding and self-soothing techniques to ride out the urge to reach out.
Read guideGetting StartedNo Contact Rule Mistakes to Avoid
The most common no contact rule mistakes, from the closure text to soft-blocking and checking, and how to avoid the slip-ups that quietly sabotage your healing.
Read guideNo contact for your situation
Does no contact actually work?
Knowing the rule is one thing. Getting through Day 4 at midnight is another.
No Contact counts your days, and when you want to text them it gives you somewhere else to go: a 20-minute wait, guided breathing, and a place to write the message and watch it dissolve unsent.